Your mindset and limiting beliefs are keeping you where you are. They are holding you captive and not allowing you to create the life you have been dreaming of. I am sure you are intimately acquainted with that small voice in your head that tells you that you are not good enough to chase your dreams, that comes up with all kinds of excuses when you are working towards your goals, and that keep you feeling frustrated and stuck.
I know because that little voice used to be really all a heard. It was constantly yelling at me all day. Creating all kinds of disruptive thoughts that were aligned with my own limiting beliefs about myself and what I was capable of. It was no fun at all and It was keeping me from living the life I wanted and knew I could make a reality.
The things you tell yourself all day long about who you are and what you are capable of have a profound impact on your life. Your thoughts become your choices, which then become actions. If your thoughts are coming from limiting beliefs they are keeping you from living the life you want to live, this is why it is so important to examine your beliefs and identify which ones are holding you back.
For me, one of the biggest limiting beliefs I faced was that I was not worthy of love. This belief came from my childhood, specifically my relationship with my father. He was very emotionally abusive and clearly had favored my younger brother because he was a boy and I was a girl. This experience created the belief that I was not worthy of love and something about me made me unlovable.
Now as an adult I can look back and see that this was not my fault. His treatment of me had nothing to do with me and everything to do with his own childhood trauma and experiences. Yet I still had this limiting belief to deal with and overcome in order to create the life I wanted.
The good news is that limiting beliefs are not permanent if you don’t want them to be. Just as I moved beyond my limiting belief about being unlovable you can move past any limiting belief that you are currently dealing with. You have spent years collecting and building beliefs and now you have the opportunity to look at those beliefs. Some of the beliefs you have about yourself are beneficial and support you in growing and being the best version of yourself. While others are limiting beliefs that are not serving you and are most likely keeping you feeling suck and playing small in your life.
You get to look through all of your beliefs and stories and decide which ones to keep and which ones you want to discard. Just like you are cleaning up files on your computer and tossing the ones you no longer need. This is is what you will do with your limiting beliefs.
Think of each belief like a program your life is running on. Ask yourself if the program/belief is beneficial or if is it destructive? Does it in need of updating or should it be uninstalled?
This is a seriously powerful practice that has the potential to transform your life instantly. I have seen it happen in my own life and the lives of my clients. Discarding limiting beliefs will create quick and lasting change in your life.
One of my clients was a college student who was struggling to pass his classes. He told me he had trouble focusing and it took him forever to get his reading done and retain the information. He was really distraught about the whole situation, felt overwhelmed, and didn’t know what to do to make it better.
He also told me that he really loved what he was studying but his parents told him he would never succeed so he shouldn’t even try. Every time he sat down to do his work or take a test he heard them. He had also been labeled as having ADHD when he was a child and was told that was why he struggled to focus in school.
He was determined to prove his parents and teachers from his past wrong, but he was still carrying their limiting beliefs with him. After dissecting all of his beliefs about his ability to learn and succeed he was able to get rid of the limiting beliefs that were holding him back. Then he replaced the limiting beliefs with beliefs that would support him in creating a new reality where he did well in school and was able to focus.
Instead of going through all of his limiting beliefs when it came time for him to read and study, he created a space that was distraction-free and told himself that focusing and getting his work done was easy. He also shifted his focus away from grades and on to learning and understanding what he was studying.
Doing these things few simple things helped him completely change his school experience. He went from struggling to pass his classes to getting all A’s. Which was exactly what he had wanted in the first place and was stressing himself out in the process by only focusing on his grades and not actually learning the material.
His story is not unique. I have seen ings like that happen over and over when people make the choice to change their mind and eliminate their limiting beliefs. Taking control of your mind and eliminating limiting thoughts and beliefs is one of the most powerful ways to create lasting change and transformation in your life.
How To Eliminate Limiting Beliefs
- List all of the areas in your life that you are feeling stuck, frustrated, or unfulfilled. Ex: I feel unfulfilled in my relationships
- Go through your list one by one and write down all your beliefs about that part of your life. Ex: Relationship Beliefs: I will never find love, relationships are so hard, no one will love me for who I am, I always fail.
- Do your best to trace back where that belief came from. Then replace it with a belief that will benefit you and the life you are working on creating. Ex: I am lovable, relationships are rewarding and fulfilling, I will find love when the time is right.
- Put up sticky notes with your new beliefs on your bathroom mirror read them every time you go into the bathroom.
- Pay attention to your thoughts throughout the day. When the old beliefs come up, stop yourself, take a deep breath and remind yourself of your new belief. Repeating it silently or out loud to yourself.
- Support your new beliefs with daily mantra meditations and affirmations. Meditation is an amazing way to help solidify your new beliefs. Ex: You could repeat this mantra: I am lovable, I am worthy, I am enough.
Putting this into practice will make a huge difference in your life. Taking the time to overcome limiting beliefs is something that you will not regret doing. Your new beliefs will be your ticket to creating the life you want. If you want to learn more about getting unstuck, loving yourself and your life feel free to join my free community!